Crazy. Stupid Love (An Observation)

Has anyone seen this movie yet?

Well, if you have not let me provide a quick synopsis.

Cal Weaver is a middle aged man who separates from his wife after she tells him she had an affair. Cal meets Jacob, a young man with enormous self confidence and sexual magnetism, at a bar. These two very different men become friends and each teaches the other the importance of self discovery. After a series of amusing transformations both Cal and Jacob discover what they really want in life. True Love. On this quest they impact those closest in their lives and show that "true love" is something worth fighting for, even getting hurt for. 

First let me tell you, I have so much respect for Steve Carell as an actor. I have rarely seen so much diversity in a actor as I do with Steve Carell. He is more than just a "comedian" he is an intelligent actor who provokes feelings and thoughts in his audience through his humor and whit. It takes amazing talent to make a person laugh through tears.

Ryan Gosling is another actor who should be looked at for more than just his good looks. He is an authentic actor who truly believes in his characters and he brings an integrity to those characters when so many actors are unable to do. Even as the womanizing "Jacob," Ryan allows you to see a venerability which is believable and real that you end up truly liked this character.

These two actors were able to make these two very different characters into believable friends even though there was an obvious age and experience differences.

I think we need to explore this relationship.

Men don't have these type of relationships, and you know they should. I feel that men have become afraid to have close relationships with other men because of a stigma that would be perceived as some other type of relationship.

But, that is not the case.

Lets look at men from anthropological standpoint. In ancient cultures, men and women were separate from each other. Men had their men friends and women had their women friends. But really it was more that just friendship it was a sort of kinship.

Men were able to go off with other men and put their lives in to the hands of these men as they hunted and fought. There was a camaraderie with this group of men, they shared their lives with each other, they talked, drank, supported and lifted up each other. They complained about their wives, they asked for advice, they talked and bragged about their sexual experiences, they told stories, they taught the young men. This was the foundation of early culture and it is something in the 21st century is crumbling and falling apart.

Men don't really have that support system anymore. We live in a "lone wolf" society. I feel that men of the 21st century doubt their "Manliness" if they do go out with other men.

Guys don't do that to yourselves.

You know what you know, you know what you want and your friends know what you want, and if people outside of your group are going to sit there and judge you for your friends or your relationships then they are the pathetic lonely individuals.

Men you DON'T need to get "in touch with their feminine side!"

I'm sorry, but I just don't buy into that crap. Woman don't want feminine men. Women want MEN! Women want manly men. Women want a man who is not afraid to stand up for the injustices of whatever world they are in at the time. Women want men to take charge and to make decisions when we can't. Women want men who respect the individuality of a woman and will give her space when she needs it. Women want men who are hot in bed. (Apologies to my sensitive readers but I tell it like it is.) 

Women, let me tell you something. I'm no expert on men, but I have been very observant of men lately and this is what I see.

Women you have got stop treating your men like your girl friends!!

If its shopping you want to do, go with your girl friends, and let your man head to the bar with his friends. Men don't WANT to hold your purse while you are trying on 10,000 pairs of jeans, Men don't care whether the curtains match the bedding, men don't care if your gal friend is having a mental breakdown because her cat died! I mean really girls are we that STUPID!?

How have we let ourselves become so backwards? We have not advanced our culture; we have repressed it. We have created fuzzy gender lines. Clarification, this is not about Homosexual vs. Heterosexual this is about being Clinically Male and Clinically Female.

We are different my friends. Let me say that one more time. WE ARE DIFFERENT!

Men be men! Stop thinking that you have to be all fluffy and frilly for your special lady friend, and girls stop emasculating your men!

God made men and women different for a reason. If HE took the time to make us different, then why in the world to we feel we have to be the same?

If I wanted to be with another woman, I'm going to chose a woman. I am not going to choose a man and then change him into a woman. You see were I am coming from? Girls if you don't want your man to be a man, then maybe you really need to look into yourself and question whether it is really a man you want.

No judgement. We are humans with needs and those needs need to be authentic, because if we sit around and lie to ourselves about who we are, then we are going to ruin other's lives trying to get them to be what we want, and that is so wrong!

Crazy, Stupid, Love. That is what it is. This movie is a MUST SEE. Men and Women MUST see this movie whether you are in a relationship or not. Because you know "LOVE" is CRAZY and it is STUPID. But, without it were would we be?