Never Saw it Coming...

Today it became official, my son is grown up. Well, as grown up as a 13 year old can be. He has a girlfriend. Officially.

As a parent, I read his text messages. I find that it is not an invasion of privacy it is my right as his mother and considering that I pay for the cell phone, I have every right.

Well, the young lady in question was really quite bold and asked my son "Do you want to go out?" in which my son replied. "Sure were do you wan to go?" LOL.... in which this poor girl had to specifically ask "No what I meant was, do you want to be my boyfriend?" my son's reply "Sure"

I have figured it out. All men are really like this. It literally just dawned on me! Men are not hard to understand at all, they just need things black and white. Where we women tend to be coy and implicit men are straightforward and explicit.

No wonder men and women clash with each other.

I was reading an article about men and women, and the author of the article stated that when men get into a committed relationship even though they care very much for their partner, they take this sort of hiatus. It is like a "cooling off period" to them it makes perfect sense, they need a break they need to regroup and think things over. It doesn't mean that they are ending the relationship, it just means that they need some breathing room.

I get it now.

So, I hope that this young lady understands that as well, while my son may enjoy the "fun" of having a girlfriend, he is going to have a point in time were he is going to feel overwhelmed and need to back off. I just hope that this young lady is sensitive enough to know that this is just fun and not serious.

Girls are more mature the boys are especially at this age. The reason being? Well because genetically girls at this age back in prehistoric times were having babies while the young boys were learning how to hunt. See the difference there? That is why women tend to be more sexually aggressive sometimes, why they flirt and tease. To ensure their place in the advancement of the species.

Yeah I know it all sounds rather scientific but do you see were I am coming from? Women, listen to me. If you are in a relationship with someone, maybe backing off is not such a bad thing? It may not heal the relationship but it may give both people the opportunity to consider what the relationship means and whether or not the relationship is one that should continue or go their separate ways.

I expect in the next months or so that there will be some heart ache. That there will be some hard feelings. I also anticipate that my son is suddenly going to change, from a boy who likes to play with Lego's to a young man with the sexual urging of his gender.

Am I prepared for that? Honestly I don't know. I look at my daughter and she has already had and broken up with a boyfriend and she is only 11, but she is a woman and therefore much more in tune in her needs for relationships.

My son, well....to me I still see the boy. Even though his voice is changing and his body is developing into a man's body, he is getting taller and more muscular...one day my little boy will be gone and in his place will be this young man ready to go off into the world and protect his country and make a place for himself.

I pray to God that he keeps his head on straight, I pray to God that he makes good choices and that he doesn't tie himself down. I don't think that will happen, heck he is only 13, but then again...some wonderful relationships have stemmed from Childhood Sweethearts.

So friends, I've never asked this of you before but I am now. Regardless of your faith please send prayers up for my son...and heck...send some up for me too!!